Monday, February 22, 2010

Even more Diamond Yoke pics

Tom and I met our friends Jamie and Hilary for lunch yesterday and I wore my Diamond Yoke Cardigan. Knowing full well that Tom can never take a good picture, I had him photograph me anyway. I've posted pictures of me wearing this sweater with a dress, but I thought you might like to see it with me wearing jeans. I always like looking at women actually wearing the garments they make. Showing a sweater flat on a table or on a hanger or even on a commercial dress form doesn't tell me a thing about how it actually fits.

For this reason, I present the following commentary about my Diamond Yoke Cardigan.

For the record. My breasts are symmetrical. Must be the light but my left boob looks much smaller than my right. It's not!

Even Tom noticed. Second, the shirt I'm wearing with this is too long and too baggy. Even Tom said so and most of the time he barely notices me. How we turned into old married people (who aren't even married) is beyond me. I swear I could show up everyday in my favorite faded Vermont t-shirt, unkempt hair, and no makeup and he wouldn't even notice. But even he commented that the shirt is too big for this outfit.

Gaping at the gape.You know how I feel about belly gape cardigans. Perhaps my strong opinion is based on this pattern which was definitely designed to open at the bottom. Not my favorite look. I wish it buttoned all the way down.

Where's my burka? This cardigan makes me uncomfortable because it is so form-fitting. You can see all the curves (that's a nice word for it!) that I always feel I should cover. Saying I feel ambivalent about showing off my body is an incredible understatement. I'm definitely more comfortable in baggy clothes.

A heartfelt prayer. Dear God, in my next life could I please have slim hips? Please? Please? Please? Whenever I see pictures of my mighty derierre, all I can do is cringe.

My gratitude list. Okay, enough of the criticism. Here is the good news:
  • I'm proud of making such a complicated sweater.
  • Pink flatters my skin.
  • I don't look half bad for a woman who turns 51 in a couple of weeks.
  • I've lost almost 40 pounds since I made this sweater. I don't think you can even tell, but I'm glad to know this fact anyway.
  • I'm grateful I have a nice boyfriend to take these pictures, one who takes me just as I am whether it's dressed in a sweater of my own making or a faded Vermont t-shirt.
My favorite therapist would now ask me: can you take yourself just as you are, whether you're dressed in a sweater of your own making or a faded Vermont t-shirt? I know I'm supposed to give a hearty "YES!" but I would be lying. Ambivalence is my middle name.

Yet I persevere. My goal with this blog is to find self-acceptance by making clothes that fit and flatter - and to help you do this, too. Self-love is a struggle for almost all women. Let's keep calm, carry on - and cast on, too.


  1. The eternal prayer is the one for slim hips for most of us women. It's a gorgeous sweater and a great color. Model it over a thin black turtleneck with jeans- it'll look super, I bet.

  2. I'll try it, BB! And post the pics when I do. Thanks for the sound advice - and for reading, too.

  3. Love it Love it Love it !

    I didn't even notice the asymetrical bust size until you mentioned it, and then looking it is Definitely the camera angle.

    Great blog today about this sweater which you should be proud of.

    It is encouraging to other ample knitters such as myself.

  4. You did a great job on that sweater. Love the color too. Don't you hate the one boob looking bigger or smaller than the other. As if we big gals don't have enough on our plates in the first place. You have given me the needed push I need to start posting my pictures of myself wearing what I have knitted. Thanks so much.

  5. One more thing to add to your gratitude list :
    You are a fantastic writer who gives joy to those of us who read your blog!!
    lotsa love lulu

  6. Sewlove, I want to see pictures of you dressed in your creations - with symmetrical breasts or not!

    And Lulu, you just made me cry - in a good way. :-)

    Thank you both for making my whole damn day.

  7. It is a beautiful sweater and you are a beautiful woman. The size of your backside can't detract from that. Too bad we can't see ourselves the way others see us, isn't it?

  8. NoJGenny, thank you so much for the lovely, kind words. And for reading my blog - it means the world to me.

    I guess there's not a woman in the world who is satisfied with their derriere, me included. I'm just grateful I don't have to look at it everyday! Thanks again.

  9. I definitely agree with all the posters today! You are beautiful, you do write lovely, your knitting is gorgous and I do appreciate your blog! :D

  10. I loved this note
    "I'm grateful I have a nice boyfriend to take these pictures, one who takes me just as I am whether it's dressed in a sweater of my own making or a faded Vermont t-shirt."
    What a sweetheart you have!
    And I agree with the op's - thank you and we are all amazing women!

  11. Anonymous, thanks so much for the kind words... he really is a sweetheart. But most of all, thank you for reading my blog!

  12. I just stumbled across your blog. I hope you go into how to make adjustments, but I was really taken by how pretty you are and your sweater looks very nice on you. Congrats on losing 40lbs too.

  13. Anonymous, wow! What a compliment. I will definitely keep talking about making modifications so I hope you keep reading. I turn 51 years old tomorrow... glad to hear someone thinks I look pretty and not decrepit! Thank so much!